I’ve been feeling a little uncertain about my career and purpose lately (read: since college) so this quote, shared in my Desire Map Book Club Facebook group, really resonated with me. I read it and felt like it was written just for me. If you’ve been feeling uncertain or anxious, I hope you find comfort in it too.
Sending so much love,
“Have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and to try to love the questions themselves as if they were locked rooms or books written in a very foreign language. Don’t search for the answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps then, someday far in the future, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer.” ~Rainer Maria Rilke
Today I’m going to try something new on the blog. If it goes well, I’ll do it the first Wednesday of the month each month.
It’s called Coaching in the Comments.
Here’s how it will work:
I’ll post a topic/life area early Wednesday morning. If you’d like to be coached on the topic listed, share your thoughts/struggles/dilemma in the comments by 8pm EST.
I’ll respond to each comment with a comment. These responses will be viewable to other readers and that’s the point. Not only to help the person commenting but to help other readers that may be in similar positions, facing similar challenges.
This will not be advice. In fact, you may get more questions as a response than anything. These are meant to help you get clarity around the issue.
Some topics I’ve got in mind:
- Relationships–romantic, family, friends
- Goals–especially the ones that seem to always be on the resolution list
- Creative Expression
- Health and Wellness
If you have other topics you’d like me to include, share them in the comments here.
Today’s topic: relationships
What relationship(s) is causing you stress or frustration?
What relationship(s) do you want to improve or strengthen in 2014?
Any questions about Coaching in the Comments? Leave those in the comments too!
I work full time (not as a coach) so if there are a lot of entries it may take me a couple of days to respond. (Be patient.)
If you want to be anonymous to other readers, that’s totally understandable. Just put “anonymous” where it asks for your name. You will, however, be required to put in your email address and I (Joanna) will be able to see that but no one else will. I’ll be sure to keep it confidential.
I’m leading a book group as part of Danielle LaPorte’s World’s Biggest Book Club. At the end of our last meeting we went around and shared, off the cuff, what we desire. (inspired by p. 23)
to giggle with my husband at least once a day, to make a ritual of taking our future kids to Barnes and Noble and/or the library regularly to pick out new books together, to write, to have my words inspire and comfort other people, to host a standing Sunday brunch, to have a job that lights me up, to move my body every day in a way that feels right that day, to let go and feel free, to have fresh painted nails more often than not, to get in bed at the end of the day feeling a good kind of tired and already relaxed, to get lost in a good book, to go to happy hour regularly…
That’s all for now.
Wanna play? Share in the comments! It’s fun!
This is my second weekend in a row with no plans! I’m totally loving it and for once, letting myself relish in not having plans and not putting pressure on myself to make any or do a million things. Have a relaxing weekend!
A Facebook friend shared this article with the caption “a must-read for educators.” I think it’s a must-read for everyone.
This op-ed has been circulating for a while but I hadn’t actually read it until this week. I was chatting with a co-worker about busyness and how I don’t want to answer “Good. Busy.” when someone asks me how I am. No kidding, within 20 minutes this link showed up in my inbox…sent my a former co-worker. So weird. I read it. It’s worth a read. The whole thing.
Two blog posts with truths that almost brought me to tears: an open letter to parents from a non-parent and one on getting married at 23.
On Love Always, Jo this week:
A reader sent this video in response to my post on gratitude. The student talks about how vulnerable saying thank you is. It’s so true. I was really hesitant to publish my post on Thursday because it made me feel really vulnerable–what if I interpreted the my colleagues the wrong way? what if this is stupid and silly? Anyway, enough about me, watch the video.
Have you read anything good lately? Share in the comments!
Earlier this week, I made cookies for colleagues that took time to speak to the Lafayette students I hosted for an externship (essentially a job shadow). I packed them up in little boxes that I got at Target and delivered them with a handwritten thank you note.
I was surprised at how touched my colleagues were by this gesture. I got so many thank you’s for my thank you. But it was more than that. It seemed like it really touched their hearts.
Then, my heart was really touched when I was on the receiving end of a gesture like that…
On Tuesday afternoon, I got an email from a colleague in athletics:
Joanna, Good afternoon. Would you like two tickets to the Men’s Basketball game tomorrow night? Let me know if you’d like them and I’ll place them at will call for you.
My colleague didn’t explicitly say that this was a “thank-you” but regardless I was touched by this generosity. By his thinking of me and taking time out of his day to do this for me.
These experiences got me thinking about gratitude and connection. I think people just want to know they’re valued. And to have that expressed with a gesture like cookies was really nice. To be offered basketball tickets totally out of the blue (I’ve never been to a game!) was an acknowledgement of respect. These little things go a really long way.
Talk to me:
Have you been acknowledged or thanked recently in a way that really touched your heart?
Is there someone in your life that you’d like to thank?