Together while apart: how we stay in touch while traveling

by Joanna on March 28, 2012

While Mike is in Florida, we’re communicating primarily through email. It started when I went to St. Lucia and knew I wouldn’t have cell service.  It didn’t even cross my mind to find a way to be able to use my phone while there. My sisters got calling cards, texting plans, and an app to call through wi-fi but I just assumed we’d have wi-fi at the resort and Mike and I agreed to email back and forth through the week. We liked it so much that even though we can chat on the phone or through text while Mike is in Florida we decided we’d primarily chat through email.

While it was weird not speaking or texting when I was away, we realized that we really enjoyed emailing back and forth. I liked taking time to sit and write an email to him–it allowed me time to reflect on the trip, to think about my response before responding. In writing to each other, I think we gave each other more quality time than we would have if we’d be calling and texting.

When we’re apart, phone calls are usually short at the end of the day when I’m tired and/or distracted and therefore they’re not very substantive, and filled with lots of  “i miss you.” While texts are nice, text conversations can be the worst.

But, when I sat down to write Mike an email (in the morning, my favorite time of day), I wanted to fill him in on what I’d been up to, what things were on my mind. I’d think consciously about what I wanted him to know, what I wanted to talk to him about. When you’re emailing, you can’t just be on the other end of the line, you have to write and you have to think about it. I’d be sure to ask him thoughtful questions, to follow up on things he’d told me to keep the conversation going. It is a different way of a communicating but a nice change of pace.

It was fun to look forward to the emails. When did I think he’d write? What would he say? I felt like I did back in middle school waiting for a note from a boy I liked and the giddiness and excitement that went along with that.

If I looked forward to emails from him every day this week, you can imagine my excitement that he’s coming home TODAY!

I’d love to know:

How do you keep in touch with your sig-o when traveling apart? (see above)

Do you remember exchanging notes in middle school? I remember getting notes from Mike in middle school.  I can still remember how he folded them–differently than I did.  

{ 2 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Sarah Steinnberg November 20, 2013 at 9:39 pm

Hey Jo, thank you for your lovely post :)
To be honest I couldn’t imagine us to send e-mails to each other. We usually call.
We use international Travelsim cards to make cheap calls. And it helps us to stay connected.


2 Joanna November 24, 2013 at 1:49 pm

Hi Sarah! Thanks for reading! Luckily, I was only gone for a week when I wrote this post…otherwise I think email-only wouldn’t have worked. I went away for a weekend earlier this year on a business trip and we FaceTimed for the first time. It was so fun! Talking on the phone reminds me of the early days in our relationship, when we talked on the phone every day. That’s when we really connected and really got to know each other.


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