two questions: driving and dinner

by Joanna on August 20, 2012

I thought I’d start a new line of posts today.  A mini-questionnaire of sorts.  Just two marriage/relationship themed questions.  Two questions seems like just the right amount to answer.  If you have questions you’d like included in the series, post them in the comments, share them on my Facebook page, or send me an email. 

Who drives?

We take turns.  I usually drive in the morning–say to the gym or to the bookstore on Saturday mornings.  We joke that that’s my “shift.” Mike usually drives otherwise.  Unless we’re going somewhere that I know how to get to and he doesn’t.  I get a little impatient and would rather just drive us there than give directions. When we go home to PA, Mike usually drives.

Where do you eat dinner?

We usually eat dinner while sitting on the couch and hunching over the coffee table and watching TV.  While this is not ideal and we both acknowledge that we talk a lot more when we sit at the table, most nights by the time we get to eat we just want to veg on the couch.  At this point dinner is more about feeding ourselves than it is about connecting.  I hope that at some point we’ll make dinner more of a ritual and a time to reconnect rather than zone out in front of the TV. I definitely want dinner time to be a family thing and our kitchen to be a warm place where we all connect. I want Mike and our future kids to come home from school/work and ask what’s for dinner and hang around while I cook.  I want this to be a special time for all of us.  Right now Mike and I have some of our best conversations in the kitchen.

Your turn:

Who drives in your relationship? Where do you eat dinner?

If you’re not in a relationship, what do you hope your future relationship will look like in either of these areas?

{ 4 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Emily @ Perfection Isn't Happy August 21, 2012 at 8:58 am

My husband always drives. In the three and half years that we’ve been together, I can count the number of times I’ve driven on one hand. It’s kind of weird, I know, but I think it’s because we’re both old-fashioned and we just got used to it. We eat dinner at our kitchen table, unless we’re having a casual night with takeout — then we eat on the couch.


2 Emily @ Perfection Isn't Happy August 21, 2012 at 8:59 am

three and a half*


3 Chrissy Norelli August 21, 2012 at 8:38 pm

Justen usually drives. It’s honestly just becuase he doesn’t shut up about how bad of a driver I am if I drive. I, of course, don’t think I’m a bad driver. We always eat on the couch, which I hate. I’d like to sit at the kitchen table instead of in front of the TV. I also want dinner to be a family thing once we have children. As much as we fought at the dinner table growing up, it really was important for us to all sit down to dinner; and now of course we’d kill to all sit down for dinner together.


4 Dana August 21, 2012 at 10:52 pm

We share driving duties, though my fiance drives a little more. Basically, whoever had the idea to go somewhere drives because it is “my/his trip”. And on long trips, we split it. One of us drives there and the other drives back. Though when we were first dating, I never drove.

And so far we eat at the kitchen table. At his last apartment, there wasn’t room for a kitchen table. I’m sure we’ll slowly devolve.


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