the worst part of being an adult

by Joanna on September 3, 2012

The real world.  We’ve all got to enter it at some point.  It includes bill paying, work, finding a new identity that’s not student, and while all of that has its challenges, none of these are the worst part of being an adult.

Let me explain…


It’s about noon on Sunday and my best friends from college and I are sprawled across two beds in the hotel room we shared after LEM‘s bachelorette party wishing we could all go back to sleep for about 4 more hours.  We were out til 4am, drinking and dancing up a storm.  Our heads hurt and we’re so tired. But as I cuddle and chat with my best friends, all 6 of us together, this warm loving feeling spreads over me and I say “isn’t life just so good right now?” They all laugh because it’s ridiculous–we’re exhausted and the room is spinning a bit–but I know deep down they all agree.


It’s a Sunday breakfast that turns into three hours over coffee and crepes, a lunch date that leaves you bouncing into your office, a happy hour that turns into dinner and a bottle of wine and not getting home until 10:30 on a Monday.


It’s a text message telling you about a DC pizza place on Diners, Drive-ins, and Dives or an email mid-day Wednesday asking how the week is going.


Yes, these are some of the best things in life.

But they point to the worst thing about being an adult: there’s never enough time for friends

And maybe the flip side of that is realizing how valuable these people are.  And finally learning to shift your priorities to make time for them.  Because they are everything.


Talk to me: what do you think is the worst part of being an adult?

{ 4 comments… read them below or add one }

1 September 3, 2012 at 11:34 am

The worse thing about being an adult for me is the responsibility. From cleaning, bills, to my children. My single twenties was definitely the best time of my life. It was less frustrating and more fun because I didn’t have to listen to three other opinions like I do now. :) From whining toddler, crying baby, and a husband. 😉


2 Joanna September 10, 2012 at 7:23 am

I think about that all the time. As I write (on Monday morning at 7:20) my husband is laying on the couch watching TV before work and I’m sitting in bed writing. I know that a lot of these things will not be possible when we have kids some day so I’m trying to cherish this time now.

Question for you: how can you make now the best time of your life?


3 September 11, 2012 at 11:58 am

I have a long reply for ya. I’m going to shorten it the best I can. :)

My husband and I keep saying “If only we had money, we can go out and do this or that.” A lot of the things we would like to see and do aren’t free. Luckily, we live in a great city that does have a lot of free things to do. However my husband works two full-time jobs. He has his day job and then an evening job where he cuts grass. The profit he makes from his grass cutting goes straight to his business bills.

My husband and I decided he should start the grass cutting business because we were tired of living the way we were/are. We’re trying desperately to get ahead in life but money really prevents us from enjoying things. My husband is never home because he works 13-15 hour days and it really cuts into our daily and social lives. We’re hoping one day the grass cutting business will be his new 9-5, weekends off, and enough money in the bank to take the kids on a vacation (or a vacation ourselves).

Making now the best time of our lives is to be able to pay our bills, have one job, and have weekends off so we can do family things/socialize with others.


4 Emily @ Perfection Isn't Happy September 3, 2012 at 9:24 pm

This is so true. New careers, marriages, big moves — they all pull people apart, even when you don’t mean to lose touch. It makes me sad sometimes, but you can’t go backwards.


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