adjusting to my name change

by Joanna on February 6, 2013

I started this post last summer but never got around to finishing it.

It was so hard for me to change my name when I got married. Though I knew I wanted to change my name, it was an interesting transition filled with emotions.

First, I cried at the Social Security Office.

Then I didn’t want to tell my dad that I didn’t even keep my maiden name as my middle name. Like I “dropped” it?  Ouch. That sounds harsh.

There was one point where I was meeting someone new for the first time and my maiden name just rolled right off my tongue and I had to correct myself and say “no, that’s actually not my name.”

And then going the other way, I was in Florida with LEM last January and the woman in Talbots asked me for my email address and I quickly blurted out joanna.platt@gmail.com. That’s NOT my email address, I don’t even know where that came from!

And then I was picking up a book at the library held under my last name and I went and started looking at N. 

But now, just a short year later, I’m totally Joanna Platt. I’m very comfortable with my new name. I own it.

I am Joanna Platt.

Wow, even typing that it seems like such a bold statement.  But that’s who I am.

It doesn’t sting anymore when I see my new name in my dad’s handwriting, it’s not uncomfortable when I look on Facebook and I don’t have the same last name as my little sisters. I confidently sign my name and introduce myself.

I think the transition comes from time and also from being more comfortable with myself, who I am, and who I’m becoming.

As I think about next steps in life, start a business, and dream about what the future holds, I am Joanna Platt.

Still the girl I’ve always been but new in many ways.

 

 

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1 Jordan February 6, 2013 at 3:11 pm

This was so hard for me too! Sometimes I think about going back and swapping my middle name out because I totally miss it!

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2 Emily @ Perfection Isn't Happy February 6, 2013 at 4:44 pm

It was hard for me too. I actually kept my maiden name, so I have two last names. I’m kind of regretting keeping my old name, though, because it’s confusing to explain to people!

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3 Joanna February 8, 2013 at 10:25 am

I can relate. I didn’t change my email address at work (I would’ve had to completely give up my old email, no option for forwarding–bizarre) and people are always so confused. “What’s your last name?” “Oh, that’s your maiden name??” Uh huh.

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