truth is, i’m an introvert

by Joanna on May 20, 2014

If you know me in real life, you’d probably bet that I’m an extrovert. I’m very outgoing and love talking to people around me, including strangers.

Truth is I’m an introvert. While I can get some great energy from other people, I really need to be alone to recharge and I require a lot of alone time. Time spent reading, watching TV by myself, laying in bed and looking out the window. I need to start every day just with myself.

I feel pressure to go-go-go-go-go and hang with the group but I don’t like it and I’m certainly not my best self when I do that.

I feel a lot of guilt about this–that I don’t see my friends more and don’t see my family more (especially when we’re in PA) because I love them and I want them to know I love them (my love language is quality time, after all) and “if-I-did-love-them-I’d spend-every-minute-with-them-and-I-wouldn’t-get-tired.”

But I do.

Now that I’m realizing this and acknowledging it, it feels better. Because it’s not personal, it’s just me. Just what I need to be the best version of myself.

{ 4 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Emily @ Perfection Isn't Happy May 20, 2014 at 7:07 am

I’m the same way. I wake up a little earlier than I need to every morning just so I can eat breakfast and watch TV by myself!

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2 Sara @ SimplySaraTravel May 20, 2014 at 7:21 am

I love this post, Joanna! It makes me think of the communication issues I had with my hubby when we first moved to Paris. Since I was alone most of the day, I would be ready to talk his ear off when he got home from work. But he is an introvert and was in desperate need of some alone time after being drained by being with people all day long. I think the key with family/spouses/friends is communicating needs. When Michael told me why he needed to be alone, I realized I wasn’t being ignored or unloved and tried to understand the needs of an introvert :-)

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3 Jacquelyn @justjacq May 20, 2014 at 11:21 am

I sometimes just tell people I’m shy so I don’t have to explain why I suddenly get really tired in groups. It’s too much to go through the whole introverted explanation. But I’m the same way as you. I need time to myself or one on one time with someone to recharge and be at my best. It confuses people because I’m pretty personable and outgoing.

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4 Chrissy May 20, 2014 at 10:10 pm

Just learned the word “ambivert” in my class – both introverted and extroverted… it’s possible and you’re not alone!

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